A work in progress. Using the 5 step process to alignment.

I have a long-term friendship coming to an end. It is my decision to formally end the relationship, though I could argue that the other person’s behavior indicated an end to what once was a predominantly loving and respectful friendship. In my spiritual practice I utilize a five-step process given to me by my advisor, to guide me back into alignment with my Broader Perspective, thereby making me feel better. They suggested I use the process to work through my feelings as the basis for this post. I’ll admit this feels a little foreign to me and at the same time, I’m excited to get this blog underway! So here we go…

First and always: accept where you are. You can’t be anywhere else.

Okay! Right now, I accept that I’m feeling a certain kind of way about what happened with my friend. It has been really easy to keep ruminating on what I perceived as unfair treatment. It has not been as easy to release the resistance I’ve felt about everything that transpired between us. I also felt resistance to processing through these unwelcome feelings. I’m currently in a place of releasing the resistance so I can move through these steps and ultimately take whatever inspired action I am led to.

Second: Acknowledge the emotion you feel:_______. That’s telling you something you really want to know. It’s telling you that your thoughts on the subject are different than your Broader Perspective.

I acknowledge that the emotion I’m feeling is: Doubt. I’m doubting my decision to end the relationship. I’m doubting my perception. Really, I doubt my sovereignty. This IS something I really want to know! I want to know when my thoughts are out of alignment with my Broader Perspective because that is my North Star, my compass, my indisputable KNOWING. It’s easy to have thoughts out of alignment with my Broader Perspective because I have practiced aligning with other perspectives most of my life. We all do! I prioritized my mom’s perspective, my religion’s perspective, my friend’s and lovers’ perspectives, society’s perspective, etc… I’ve practiced those habits enough that they feel true, even though they feel like shit! Anything outside of total alignment with my own sovereignty feels like shit! Thankfully I now understand that I don’t have to feel like shit and there’s no martyrial award for living a long-suffering, separated from myself existence. Now I can choose to practice aligning with my Broader Perspective! It will take practice. I will get distracted at times. And I will build muscle memory in this aligned pursuit. Eventually, it gets easier to keep my focus on my Broader Perspective because I value feeling good and I believe that feeling good is important. It’s critical to everything else I want in life!

Third: At this point you should feel a slight bump in emotion. Because you no longer are resisting your emotion, but you see it as positive.

I am feeling a big sense of relief! I’m breathing easier and my body feels lighter. At this point, I will typically refer back to the emotional guidance scale to identify exactly how much I have moved up the scale. I have actually moved quite far up the scale! I am now feeling Positive Expectation! When I first started using this process, I would barely perceive the release of resistance. I wasn’t as clear about what I felt, or that my thoughts were driving my emotions. I had the benefit of an advisor to help me connect the dots before I was flying solo.

Fourth: Then acknowledge the improved mood and what that mood/emotion tells you.

Heck yeah! I feel so much better! I am so glad to have this relief!!! I know I’m closing the gap between me and my Broader Perspective because I’m feeling an improvement. I know I’m really closing the gap because I am well above 8 on the emotional guidance scale. I want to practice habits of thoughts that keep me feeling amazing and in alignment! I love the feeling I get when I know I’m intentionally moving myself up the scale, into alignment with my Broader Perspective! It’s a very empowering experience!

Fifth: Amplify, amplify, amplify! Express to yourself thoughts that have you feeling better. Usually that means thoughts about the improvement you created. THEN, you can probably tap into your Broader Perspective’s perspective on the subject that had you feel _____. When you do, you’ll receive thoughts about that subject that are more empowering. Come up with as many of those until you’re well above 8. Then bask in that feeling.

I am a powerful creator! I am creating the life I want with intention! I know my thoughts drive my emotions and my emotions indicate to me where I am in respect to my Broader Perspective. I have all the information I need, within me, to guide my life in the direction of my dreams! I only ever need to tune in to myself, my emotions and my Broader Perspective. It feels amazing to know I have the power to change my mind, change my emotions and change my life, all by changing who and what I focus on. It seems so simple, and it totally resonates as truth!